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Drinking the Healing Power of Medicine Buddha, Avalokitesvara, and other Mantras: A Desperate Recommendation for a Desperate Reader

Published Setyembre 6, 2013 by jptan2012

All the wonderful testimonials of my readers who has requested and received and experienced a blessing associated with WISH FULFILLING AND BUDDHA’S BLESSING MANTRA PENDANT(1), has inspired me to write again.

Today, allow me to share another personal testimony of a reader who has requested for some assistance in healing a sibling suffering from depression and diabetes.

MC was one of the lucky readers whose email I was able to read right away. She emailed me because she wants to have the WISH FULFILLING AND BUDDHA’S BLESSING MANTRA PENDANT(2).  However, as I always say, my greatest frustration with the WISH FULFILLING AND BUDDHA’S BLESSING MANTRA PENDANT(3) is that it is quite pricey and not all people can afford it. This is the case of MC. She can’t afford the pendant.WISHFULFILLING AND BUDDHA BLESSING FRONT1

MCs problem is her sister who lives with her. She is somebody that we can call an old maid, and according to MC her sister is really one of the nicest person in the world that is why it pains her to see her sister suffering.

MP, MC’s sister, both of their names starts with M, was diagnosed to be clinically depressed. Add to this problem is the fact that her depression is making her diabetes really bad. Her psychiatrist has prescribed some medicine but according to MC, MP seems to be in denial and refuses to take the medicines. Worst, is that she has stopped taking her diabetic medicine which cause MP to go hypoglycemic. She almost died because of it. MC feels that it’s MPs way of committing suicide.

Because MC is unable to afford the WISH FULFILLING AND BUDDHA’S BLESSING MANTRA PENDANT(4), I told her to chant the MEDICINE BUDDHA MANTRA, the MANTRA OF THE GODDESS OF MERCY, the WISH FULFILLING MANTRA, and the NEGATIVE KARMA CLEANSING MANTRA with her sister. Unfortunately, MP was not cooperative and refuses to recite the mantras. I then advised MC to print out the mantras and stick them in MPs room, so she’ll see them and benefit from it. As I stated in my post about MANTRAS one need not understand them to benefit from them.

However, that particular recommendation didn’t work as well because she would MP would take out the printed copies of the mantras and throw them away. I then told MC to simply chant the mantra beside her sister, if possible, let the sister hear her. But then again, MP would physically dragged MC out of her room if she chants the mantra.

At this point, I thought I could no longer do anything for MC and MP. However, MC was desperate and wants to make her sister well. She bugged me to help them. This is when I remembered the ‘energized’ water principle, which I call Temple Water that we used to drink. This was the subject of my last post called – CAN WATER INFUSED WITH OUR THOUGHTS AND WORDS AFFECT US?

I then told MC that there is something that we might be able to do for MP but I’m not sure whether it’ll work. But MC was really desperate and was willing to try anything just to make MP better.

Image of Medicine Buddha with Mantra. Seeing the image and symbolic script of the Medicine Buddha has the power to bestow upon us blessings from the Buddha of Medicine.

Image of Medicine Buddha with Mantra. Seeing the image and symbolic script of the Medicine Buddha has the power to bestow upon us blessings from the Buddha of Medicine. This is the image that I printed and used for MPs ‘Temple Water’.

I decided to prepare the ‘TEMPLE WATER’ myself. Remember, I just call it ‘Temple Water’ because we used to drink that kind of water from the temple. I bought five bottles of 1 liter of bottled water. I then took out the label, replaced it with a print out of the mantras that I thought will be useful for MP, the ones that I recommended MC to recite with MP. Then I decided to chant those 3 full malas each of those mantras everyday for 7 days. Whenever, I’m not around I will simply play my Medicine Buddha Mantra recording and the Mantra of the Goddess of Mercy, Kuan Yin, also known as Guan Yin or Avalokitesvara – OM MANI PADME HUM. I also did this for 7 days. Then I handed over the bottled waters to MC and instructed her on how to do it herself. The water was then served to MP without her knowing it. Little did MP know that she’s been drinking ‘Temple Water’ everyday.

Symbolic Script of the Mantra - OM MANI PADME HUM. This is considered as the 'national' mantra of Tibetans. All the Dalai Lamas has a special affinity with this mantra because they are believed to be the direct incarnation of the 'energy' of the Bodhisattva of Compasion Avalokitesvara or Kuan Yin.

Symbolic Script of the Mantra – OM MANI PADME HUM. This is considered as the ‘national’ mantra of Tibetans. All the Dalai Lamas has a special affinity with this mantra because they are believed to be the direct incarnation of the ‘energy’ of the Bodhisattva of Compasion Avalokitesvara or Kuan Yin. This is the image that I printed and used for MP’s ‘Temple Water’.

According to MC, a week after MP started drinking ‘Temple Water’ she started taking her medicines, gradually she became better and has started going back to work. Her diabetes is also better.

But more than that, their mother who suffered from a stroke is also so much better now. She has since then started walking. I was previously unaware of the condition of the mother, but MC has decided to give their mother the ‘Temple Water’ as well, and now three months after she has started to walks again.

As for me, I have decided to make ‘Temple Water’ for us here at home and we all started drinking ‘Temple Water’ again!

NOTE: I do not in anyway recommend that one replace medicine with the TEMPLE WATER. If you’ll remember MP still took her medicine. Also, depression is a serious problem. If you think you or somebody you know is suffering from depression, seek professional help ASAP.

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The Dreaded Hungry Ghost Month

Published Hulyo 17, 2012 by jptan2012

One of the most famous Chinese festivals, other than Chinese New Year and Moon Cake Festival, is the Hungry Ghost Festival, which also happens to be one of the most dreaded festival and month of the Chinese.

The Hungry Ghost Festival happens on the 15th day of the 7th lunar month, however, unlike the other festivals, like the Chinese New Year wherein the changing of the Flying Stars happens on a specified time and date, the preparation and effect of the Hungry Ghost Month, as the term indicates, lasts for a month. It actually starts on the first day of the 7th lunar month, peaks on the 15th day, which is the Hungry Ghost Festival, and ends on the last day of the 7th lunar month.

Every year, if you follow the Gregorian/Western calendar, the Hungry Ghost Month lands on different dates. Sometimes, it starts in July and ends in August, or starts in August and ends in September. But it always cuts across August of the Gregorian calendar. For this year (2012), the Hungry Ghost Month starts on August 17 and ends on September 15. The peak is on August 30, 2012, which is the date of the Hungry Ghost Festival.

But what is the Hungry Ghost Festival or Hungry Ghost Month?

Hungry Ghost Month is actually simply called Ghost Month (鬼月, Guǐ Yuè) in Chinese, the word Hungry is added in the words Ghost Months to clarify the nature of the ghosts that best characterized this season…they’re HUNGRY!

During this month, it is believed that the King of Hell opens the gate of hell to release and allow the spirits in hell or ghosts to be free and roam our world. It is believed that the hungry ghosts will visit families and other humans, thus it is said that there’d be more paranormal and ghostly manifestation during this month. Furthermore, hungry ghosts will also look for victims that they can bring with them to hell, and thus there’d be more accidents, more than that because of the strong yin and negative energy of this season, business becomes bad and it is highly advisable that one shouldn’t sign any contract, move to a new house, get operated on during the entire Hungry Ghost Month.

Why are they considered hungry?

Buddhism and Taoism both have a slightly different version of the Hungry Ghost. For Buddhism, Hungry Ghost is in one of the Six Realms of Existence, and they are simply a form of existence. However, for Taoism, Hungry Ghosts are (1) spirits of people who have not yet gone through a reincarnation and are largely forgotten by their descendants, (2) spirits of really bad people and they’re currently being punished, (3) spirits of really sad people who died of a violent death or suicide, (4) lost spirits who harbored so much yin energy or yin feelings while they were sill living.

They’re hungry because they are unable to get food from their living love ones because their violent or yin dominant death has blocked their connection with their loved ones, they don’t have any love ones on earth, or simply they have been forgotten. It is said that a deceased love one will have connection with us for a few more years, and depending on how we treat their spirits they may enter the samsara (cycle of life) immediately or go to hell as an hungry ghost. It is also said that ghost still needs sustenance in the other existence, and they get it from us in the form of offerings. These people not receiving any are then thrown into the pit of hell and become hungry ghosts.

Since most of these ghosts lived a negative life or died a violent death, many of them still harbor ill feelings towards their fate, so when they’re released they also try to do us harm. Thus all of us need to be extra careful.

TO UNDERSTAND MORE ABOUT THE HUNGRY GHOST MONTH, HUNGRY GHOSTS, IT’S EFFECTS, RITUALS AND PROTECTION READ THE FOLLOWING HUNGRY GHOSTS SERIES:

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OR YOU CAN CLICK ON THE CATEGORY – KUWENTO TUNGKOL SA HUNGRY GHOST MONTH.

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Dealing with Depression with Feng Shui, Buddhism, and Taoism

Published Hulyo 7, 2012 by jptan2012

A few days ago,  we talked about RECOGNIZING THE  SIGNS OF DEPRESSION and briefly talked about how one should deal with it. On an earlier post called SUICIDE IS NOT A SOLUTION, I also briefly discussed on how one can deal with suicidal tendencies and depression using Feng Shui, Buddhism, and Taoism.

Today, allow me to elaborate it a little on how can one use Feng Shui, Buddhism, and Taoism in dealing with depression. However, it should be noted that this is not an alternative or replacement, this is only a ‘supplement’ but if one is depressed one should always reach out to others and get professional help. That’s the most important thing one can do.

Having said that, allow me to briefly share that Feng Shui, Buddhism, and Taoism ways to dealing with depression.

FOR FENG SHUI.

Make sure that your room or house is well lit and please put about a tablespoon of rock salt or sea salt in all corners of the house or room. Make sure that when sleeping your head is not facing towards the window. Listen to positive, happy music.

FOR BUDDHISM.

Chant a full mala (108 times) of the mantra of the BUDDHA OR BODHISATTVA OF COMPASSION, KUAN YIN, as many times as you can with a minimum of three times a day. You can also do this for a person who is depressed. Buying a CD that chants the mantra repetitively also helps. To know more about it, read my previous posts about Kuan Yin – KUAN YIN: THE ONE WHO HEARS THE CRIES OF THE WORLD; UNDERSTANDING MERCY AND COMPASSION: THE TRANSFORMATION OF AVALOKITESVARA TO KUAN YIN; and PAYING HOMAGE TO KUAN YIN, THE BUDDHA OF COMPASSION.

Another mantra that you can recite is that mantra of the MEDICINE BUDDHA –TADYATHA OM BHEKANDZYE BHEKANDZYE MAHA BHEKANDZYE BHEKANDZYE RADZA SAMUGATE SOHA. Again you can recite this for yourself or for a loved one. Constantly playing the mantra will also help.

Wear a pendant with the image of KUAN YIN, MEDICINE BUDDHA, or SUN WUKONG.

Light some incense.

FOR TAOISM.

Take a bath in a tub with a cup of rock salt or sea salt. While in a tub you can also light some red or white candles and try to put flowers in your surrounding.

Offer some fruits and flowers to THE GREAT SAGE, EQUAL OF HEAVEN SUN WUKONG, as mentioned in my previous post, SUN WUKONG exist both in Chinese Buddhism and Taoism. SUN WUKONG, is a happy god and if you’re familiar with his life story, he always uplifts those who are with him. Wearing an image of SUN WUKONG also helps a lot!

Light some incense.

But remember these are just ‘supplements’ only. The best way to deal with depression is to reach out and get professional help.

Recognizing the Signs of Depression

Published Hulyo 2, 2012 by jptan2012

As I mentioned in a previous post, I’ve received two ‘suicide email’ in one day, and because of that I’ve decided to ask my clinical counselor friend to share with me some tips on how a person can recognize depression on themselves or a loved one.

Please fine below the things that she shared with me. I’ve decided to simply copy paste it.

PERSISTENT SAD, ANXIOUS, OR ‘EMPTY’ FEELINGS. This symptom looks like a low mood but persists even after time goes by and the cause of the bad mood has cleared up or receded.

What to look for: Blank stares, loss of interest in life, an inability to feel or express happiness or other emotions. Or the person may report just feeling “empty” or “numb.”

What else to know: Often the depressed person isn’t fully aware of this symptom. Try asking, “When’s the last time you were happy?”

FEELINGS OF HOPELESSNESS, WORTHLESSNESS, OR HELPLESSNESS. In an “Eeyore-like” pessimistic way, the depressed person can’t help feeling that everything is wrong and it’s his or her fault (rather than the fault of the situation or the illness itself). It’s a hallmark sign of major depression. In mild depression, the feelings are similar but less extreme.

How to tell: The person seems unable to see any positive flip side to things or light at the end of the tunnel — and feels little sense of control over choices or events. The person talks and acts as if he or she has no options, can’t see a different path, is useless and meaningless. He or she may fixate on past mistakes, ruminating over them and expressing guilt and self blame.

What else to know: Listen for comments like these: “It’s hopeless.” “I can’t do anything about it.” “I have no choice.” “Nobody cares.” “I’m stuck.” “I should have/could have/ if only….”

FREQUENT CRYING EPISODES. The crying may not seem to have a direct or obvious trigger; sobs often come “out of nowhere.” But it’s not normal to cry every day (though the depressed person may not realize this).

What to look for: In between episodes you witness, you may notice red eyes, sniffles, cracking voice, balled-up tissues, and other trails to tears.

What else to know: Not every depressed person cries; in fact, some never do. Research has shown that women are more inclined to this behavior than men. A 2001 University of California, San Francisco (UCSF) study found that crying isn’t related to the severity of depression and that people who cry more may have briefer depressive episodes.

INCREASED AGITATION AND RESTLESSNES. Some people with depression fall on the “hyper” end of a spectrum of behaviors, where others are the opposite (see symptom #5).

What to look for: The person may seem unable to relax, more irritable than usual, quicker to anger, full of restless energy, seldom calm. Look for pacing, lashing out at others, frequent standing up and sitting back down.

What else to know: For the depressed person, everything seems magnified. So small slights or irritations aren’t just pebbles in the psyche, they’re giant boulders that get in the way of ordinary life.

FATIGUE AND DECREASED ENERGY. Typically depressed people who don’t show a lot of agitation and restlessness (symptom #4) experience the flip side of those behaviors — an increased sluggishness and slowness.

What to look for: The person may complain of having no energy, of feeling unproductive, or of “slowing down.” He or she may have quit exercising, seem tired a lot, move more slowly, and have slowed reactions. “To-Do” lists never get finished the way they once did. The person may skip work.

What else to know: Fatigue is a real mind-body problem. Low mood and loss of motivation are partly at work, as well as a physiological depletion of energy — and the two forces keep reinforcing each other.

LOSS OF INTEREST IN ACTIVITIES OR HOBBIES THAT WERE ONCE PLEASURABLE. This is one of the single most telling symptoms of depression.

What to look for: The person no longer takes pleasure in things that once brought enjoyment, whether the lives of children or grandchildren, a hobby or craft, exercise, cooking, book club, watching sports — or anything. The person may begin to decline invitations, refuse to go out, not want to see friends or family.

What else to know: Some depressed people lose interest in sex. For others, sex functions as a kind of escape, used the same way some depressed people turn to alcohol or drugs.

 DIFFICULTY CONCENTRATING, REMEMBERING DETAILS, AND MAKING DECISIONS. “Fuzzy thinking” is often apparent both to the depressed person and his or her family, friends, and colleagues.

How to tell: Various mental slips may become obvious, such as forgetting appointments and errands, making checkbook errors, misplacing objects, forgetting names, avoiding making plans, postponing decisions or deferring them to others. The person may begin writing reminders to himself or herself or take a long time reading (because it’s harder to focus). It may become harder to perform complicated tasks.

What else to know: Cognitive changes associated with depression can look like dementia; in fact, people with dementia are prone to depression, and vice-versa.

 SLEEPING TOO MUCH OR NOT ENOUGH. Disordered sleep and depression are closely related; in some people, depression manifests as insomnia (inability to fall sleep or to stay asleep), while others experience the opposite extreme: All the person feels like doing is sleeping.

What to look for: Regular sleep routines are disrupted; staying up too late or going to bed unusually early; being unable to awaken on time; complaining about a poor night’s sleep; sleeping long hours but fitfully — so the person never feels rested; excessive napping by day.

What else to know: Depression is a leading cause of sleep problems, in part because it interferes with natural biological rhythms.

POOR APPETITE OR OVEREATING. Again, the symptom tends to show up as one extreme or the other: The person loses interest in eating or falls into a pattern of constant, emotionally triggered eating.

What to look for: Missed meals, picking at food (especially if this is a change for the person), lying about food intake; loss of interest even in formerly favorite foods, mindless munching and other mindless eating, throwing up after eating; weight gain or weight loss.

What else to know: Depression is a common cause of the eating disorders anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating. It’s true both that depression can lead to eating disorders and that people with eating disorders can develop depression.

 EXPRESSING THOUGHTS OF DYING OR SUICIDE. Depression is one of the conditions most commonly associated with suicide. It begins to seem like a logical way to end the pain and suffering. As many as 90 percent of those who commit suicide are clinically depressed, have a substance abuse problem, or both, according to the National Institutes of Mental Health. (Many people with depression self-medicate with alcohol, which lowers inhibitions and increases the risk for suicide.)

If you think you or a person you know has depression there are only two things that you can do. REACH OUT and GET PROFESSIONAL HELP!

Suicide is Not a Solution

Published Hunyo 27, 2012 by jptan2012

I’ve received some emails from some of you inquiring as to why I haven’t post anything the past few days, in fact, for 20 days. I’ve been quite busy with work and I have to personally attend to two readers who sent me an email about suicide. I’m writing this post with their permission but I won’t really discuss their situation.

It feels weird that I’d received two emails from two different people contemplating suicide. Having a received a number of hoax emails, my initial reaction was to ignore the email or simply write a standard response, however, the emails felt real and more than that it is as if fate has ‘commanded’ to read their emails that day. I received several emails a day, and I have a huge backlog in responding to the said emails, as some of you may have experienced. Nevertheless, for some weird reason my attention was caught by this two different emails sent on two different dates.

There is something about their emails that really bothered me and it seems like there was a force that push me to reply. To make the long story short, I soon found out that those were real email, and real situations. The first thing that I did was to recognize the gravity of the situation, and the second thing that I did was to recognize the fact that I’m not trained to handle these kinds of situations.

I called up a clinical counselor friend to inquire how to handle the situation, she recommended some ways on how should I respond and then I hooked the two readers with her.

For Christians, suicide is a grave sin, and we’re taught that committing suicide will surely make your soul burn in hell for all eternity. In Buddhism and Taoism, it’s much more complicated, there is no clear response whether it is a sin or not. It really depends on the situation and the intent of the deed. However, one thing is clear though, suicide is not a solution.

In a Buddhist perspective, we are here on earth to achieve Buddhahood. Each lifetime is a consequence of a previous one and hopefully, the last one is always a little better than the previous one, until, one reaches Buddhahood. Unless, in extreme cases like when one commits suicide to save somebody else, or a nation, etc., committing suicide is definitely a solution, and it pulls you back several karma back from attaining Buddhahood.

It is in this sense, that for Buddhism, it is quite clear that suicide is not a solution, committing suicide will definitely bring you back to the same solution in your next lifetime or maybe even put you to a situation that’s even worse than your current situation.

If one is depressed and/or is contemplating suicide, the first thing that one should recognize is that you need to talk to somebody. It can be a relative, friend, or try one of those counseling hotlines.

If you’re Buddhist, you can also constantly recite the Mantra of the Buddha of Compassion – OM MANI PADME HUM.

If you’re Taoist, you can simply take a bath in a tub of water with salt. If possible do include some flowers.

If you believe in Feng Shui, you can also do the first two, and you can put salt in your room and make sure your room or house is well lit.

But most important of all, seek help!

Myth Buster 5: Arowana and Fish Horn are Lucky Fishes

Published Marso 5, 2012 by jptan2012

Technically, this not a myth, taking care of Arowana and Fish Horn may bring luck to a person, specially if you got the a very auspicious looking Arowana or Fish Horn. The past decade or two saw the rise in the Arowana and Fish Horn business precisely for the belief and anecdotal testimonies that these fishes has brought so much luck to some people.

These testimonies, I would presume, are mostly true, because Arowana and Fish Horn are considered lucky fishes. In fact, a lot of professional Feng Shui consultants have capitalized on this truth that they started selling Arowana charms or Fish Horn charms.

Although, I’m writing about this belief under my Myth Buster series, this is actually a truth and not a myth, at least, technically, they’re not. There is truth to the belief the Arowana and Fish Horn is lucky fish. However, I don’t have either of the fish mentioned here.

Why? Because taking care of an Arowana and/or a Fish Horn would require me to have an aquarium. A tank of water! That will be detrimental to my Feng Shui because my Basket of Element as indicated by my Bazi shows that I have a very high weighting of the water element! As it is, without the proper Feng Shui cure for this, a high water element is creating some imbalance when it comes to my luck, and therefore I need to remedy it with Feng Shui. So having a tank of water around me such as an aquarium is like a Feng Shui suicide.

The only way of knowing whether you can have an aquarium is to check your Basket of Elements, which in turn can check only if you draw up your Bazi chart. In putting up an aquarium and taking care of fishes like Arowana and Fish Horn at home, it’s best to consult a Feng Shui expert.

Also, if you’re allowed to have an aquarium and take of auspicious fishes like the Arowana, Fish Horn, or Gold Fish, it is definitely inauspicious to feed them with live smaller fishes, worms, or even insects. I know this is what most experts recommend because this enhances the color and the beauty of the fish, however, in Buddhism; feeding them living foods create a lot of negative for the one who feeds them. You will just negate the entire auspicious blessing created by the beauty of the Arowana and Fish Horn.

Si Tyron Perez…

Published Disyembre 30, 2011 by jptan2012

Nalungkot ako yun nabalitaan ko na nagpakamatay ang aktor na si Tyron Perez. Hindi dahil sa kilala ko siya o dahil sa artista siya, pero sa tingin ko kasi isa sa pinakamalungkot na dahilan ng pagkakamatay ng isang tao ay ang suicide. Lagi kong naiiisip kung ano ang pakiramdam ng isang taong mag-sui-suicide. I’m sure medyo sobrang depression at kalungkutan at kaguluhan ng pagiisip ang nararamdaman nito upang makuha nitong putulin ang sariling buhay.

I took the liberty of looking at Tyron’s Bazi or Four Pillars chart. He was born in the year of the Ox. Siyempre, hindi accurate ang reading na magagawa ko para sa kanya dahil sa wala ako nung birth hour niya, pero I can see why medyo problematic siya. Technically speaking, this year 2011 is a good year for Tyron, pero napansin ko na marami sa kanyang element ay wood, and this year being the year of the Metal Rabbit, pwede nga maging conflict sa kanya. Kung umabot lang sana si Tyron ng Jan. 10, 2012 everything could have turn out fine for him.

 

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