This is a difficult article to write and post, because of the sensitivities of the topic. However, this is an article that I need to write because of the lesson that we can learn from it.
A little more than a year ago, some readers in Mindanao called me to ask for help for one of their friend. These ladies are all friends and aside from being all mothers they are all also believer of Feng Shui. They have fond nicknames for each other, the one who really called me is called as Feng Shui Mom, one of their friend is call Prada Mom because of her love of the said luxury brand. They are calling me because of their concern with one of their newest friend who they called Jaded Mom. For the purpose of this article we will call this person JM, because of her nickname Jaded Mom.
According to Feng Shui Mom (FSM), they need help to help their friend JM because she is going through a crisis. She said she and her friends are quite concerned about JM because what started as a joke that she is jaded seems to be her truest sense of character.
FSM refuse to tell me the real problem until I have talked to JM and look at her Bazi or Paht Chee chart. When JM called me, she shared with me a little of her problems but I know that she was withholding a lot of things from, and I told her that I will just look at her chart first before we should talk again. When I looked at her chart I can see several concerns some of which will be discussed in the second part of this post, but one thing that stands out that she may have some emotional and physical dependency on men. Meaning, she can’t live without men in her life. The sad thing is even though she is married she might be seeking both physical and emotional dependency from other men.
In Buddhism, we are taught that no one can judge a person, because at the end even if the act seems wrong no one can really state the true intent of the said act. Meaning no one can judge a person but only karma will make the judgment by looking at our deepest intent. And so while her chart shows some negative aspect of her character one cannot really say that she is a bad person. However, one other concern shows that she may be pregnant but of course the chart won’t be able to tell who the father is. To add to the complications, her chart also indicates tendencies to be unable to face reality and yes she can be very jaded.
I called FSM and without revealing incriminating details other than those who she already knows she confirmed that JM indeed has a hard time facing reality. In fact, this is the reason why she and her friends decided to hook me up with JM so that she can get help from a person outside her limited circle of friends. They thought maybe she would listen to somebody outside their group.
I knew that I have to be quite careful in telling JM what I saw in her chart, but I also know that I still have to be honest with her. So I decided to tell her the truth but at the same time I did my best to be as tactful as possible. For example, in discovering about her extra – marital affairs, I used the words “emotional dependency with other men”, also regarding the possibility of her having physical contact with these men I used the term “physical closeness due to emotional dependency”. JM admitted that she yes she had had several extra – marital affairs, and that she has a guy at the moment that she is constantly seeing. She also believes that this guy is in love with her, although the chart shows otherwise. She also after several conversations admitted that she is pregnant and claims the father of the baby she is carrying to be her boyfriend and not her husband.
JM wanted some amulets because she said she wants to leave her husband who she claims to be an abusive guy. The chart doesn’t indicate whether this is true or not. I was torn whether to give her the amulets that she wants, but I told her that I would give her the amulets that she needs base on her chart. She wanted to hear that those amulets are to grant her wishes that she and her boyfriend will go out of the country and live together. If you notice, it was a little unsettling that she is willing to leave her three daughters! To avoid arguing with her, and as agreed with her friends, I will take the stance of telling her the truth without directly contradicting her. In short, I would always tell her that the amulets or Feng Shui charms will know what is best for us and that it will hasten to give us what we deserve and not what we want. Although, I will never contradict her whenever she would say that she wants her boyfriend to take her out of the country, I will always remind her that she should not dictate the outcome but rather expect that the outcome will be for the good of everybody.
Among other amulets to protect her from legal problems that she refuses to reveal what the real cause is, but which the chart indicates potential legal problem because of embezzlement, she got the Vajrapani Ruel for herself. She also insisted to get the Vajrapani Ruel for her boyfriend so that he will develop a more determined character so that he will take her out of the country.
Although JM was quite new to Feng Shui I noticed she has this propensity to hoard on Feng Shui charms or amulets believing that the more she has the stronger possibility for her to lure her boyfriend into taking her out of the country.
I know what I did might be a little controversial, but according to my Guru Lama and her friends agrees also that it is better for her to get amulets and charms thinking that it will always do her hearts bidding no matter it is wrong, as long as I have been honest with her that it will do what is proper.
The Vajrapani Ruel has a very high personal testimony, and it indeed did the right thing for her also. Soon after she got the Vajrapani Ruel for herself and her boyfriend, things went right for her, albeit not what she was really wishing for.
Even though she got pregnant, and even though she claims that her boyfriend is the father of her baby (as it turn out later the boyfriend is not capable of conceiving a child), her husband forgave her and accepted the baby (the baby also came out looking very much like her husband, it shows that what she claims that she no longer have any physical contact with her husband, they actually still shares their matrimonial bed). Her boyfriend also who seems to be really quite fond of her develop a more determined character that he needs and decided to end the relationship with her.
You see, even though her real intent was not very nice, some will even say those are evil wishes, the truth is her heart’s negative desire has no match for the power of the amulet, in this case I referr to the Vajrapani Ruel, which is the amulet that she got, the same can be said for all amulets. The amulets are ‘extensions’ of the Buddha, Bodhisattvas, or Taoist Gods thus it ‘knows’ (for the lack of term) what you really need and it shall give it to you. It may or may not be your heart’s desire but it will give you what you really need. Let’s just hope and pray that JM learns to open her eyes and see the good luck that she received.
Note: You might be asking whether JM really exist. The answer is she does, but I have taken the liberty to take two similar persons and two similar stories and merged them into one.
Note: This is the first of a series of three.
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