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Etiquette for Mistresses: A Feng Shui, Taoist, and Buddhist Perspective!

Published Oktubre 15, 2015 by jptan2012

Several of my friends have watched the movie of controversial celebrity and presidential daughter Kris Aquino. They said that the movie was nicely done; but that they all seem to have agreed that it might give the wrong notion that the life of a mistress despite of the difficulties is a glamorous life. On top of it, they all said that it might connote that once you leave the relationship mistresses will most likely have a good life such as the movie has portrayed.mistress

Now, as a Feng Shui blogger, I have received several emails, text messages, and calls about wives whose husband has a mistress, or mistresses that are having problems with their partners or with the family of the partner. Trust me when I say that I have heard both sides.

In our society, it is easy to take sympathy to the wife and condemned the mistress. But the truth as in everything, it is not always black and white. I’m not condoning mistresses but there are times that a mistress is as much as a victim as a wife and also sometimes beneath the uncomfortable set – up they are really the protagonist. However, I’ve also seen and talked to many wives (not to mention their children) who have suffered so much because of mistresses. What I’m saying is judgment should not be easily passed and if possible it should only be passed once we have truly understand all sides of the people involved.

However, let me say something, that in Taoism and Buddhism and Feng Shui, being a wife whose husband has a mistress, or being a mistress, and even being a husband who has a mistress has some reasons. It can be karmic; it can be because of a flaw on your Feng Shui or bazi. But that doesn’t these things make it right, but it doesn’t mean that it makes it wrong either.

One of the basic precepts of Buddhism is NO SEXUAL MISCONDUCT, while technically speaking in Buddhism there is no marriage in the strictest sense of the word, having sexual relationship with a person you don’t love or out of lust or physical attraction or money counts for sexual misconduct. Furthermore, although there is no wedding or marriage in the strictest sense of the word, sexual relationships out of marriage or extra – marital affairs are considered sexual misconduct.

Does this mean that a mistress is bad? To answer that I would like to say that both in Taoism and Buddhism a person is not judged by its actual and final action but by its deepest and most sincere intentions. There is a big difference between being a mistress because you want a comfortable life and love a married man, as being a mistress because you truly are in – love and truly believes that what is happening won’t hurt anyone. In Taoism and Buddhism, no one can judge but fate and we are all judged by our deepest intentions.

However, I would like to post some Etiquette for Mistresses in asking for help thru Feng Shui or amulets to better your situations:

  1. Admit that you are a mistress and trust that if you are talking to the right person you shall not be judge.
  2. Do not white wash the situation. Just state the situation, as it is base on your side.
  3. Do not speak for the guy. Do not say that he had you because the wife is evil, which leads to the next etiquette.
  4. Do not speak ill about the wife to help better your position because the bazi or the chart will show the truth anyway.
  5. Acknowledge your situation and accept it.
  6. Realize that sometimes it is really not your fault. That what you have may be really true.
  7. Most important of all, while you may ask for an amulet to better your situation, do not ask for the world’s most powerful amulet like the Vajrapani Ruel because you want your partner to leave his wife, or you want the wife dead.

Writing this because I have had so many encounters with mistresses who ask for amulets and wishes the wife of their partner ill. While it is not wrong to help better your situation be it due to the fact that your partner is really miserable with his wife and that it will help everybody if they simply separated, it is wrong to ask for an amulet simply because you want them to get separated so you can be the legitimate one.

Again, there is no judgment, I know that in some cases a mistress is really the one that is loved and deserves to be the number one. I have one or two readers who consulted me that in my honest opinion base on their charts they are really destined to be with their partners. But in the end, this should not be abuse, and that in the end no can judge and decide if this is the case except the people involve and fate.

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Feng Shui is Personal

Published Marso 2, 2012 by jptan2012

The past few days I got several emails from readers of this blog and calls from my friends asking whether I’ve seen the jade pendant of Kris Aquino. I suppose Google search on Kris Aquino’s Jade Pendant went up also because of this interest about what she’s wearing.

I’ve seen the pendant that she’s been wearing, and yes it’s nice. Judging from the look of it it’s a jadeite and not a nephrite. Can’t really tell unless I see it in person and able to touch it. I’m also thinking that people are asking because they want to buy such a pendant for themselves. If you’re looking for it as a ornamental jewelry, I guess, that’s perfectly fine, but, if you’re looking for it as a Feng Shui jewelry allow me to say that what works for her may not work for you.

Why? Simple. Feng Shui is personal.

While there are some basic Feng Shui guidelines that we can all follow, the real essence of Feng Shui is personal. What works for a friend may not work for you. For Feng Shui to be truly effective one has to look at the following:

Kua Number. A Kua number, which is computed base on your birth date determines your lucky and unlucky directions, this also defines your health sector. While people with the same Kua number will have the same lucky and unlucky directions, you should note that there are 9 Kua numbers, meaning there are nine possible combinations.

Astrological Weight. Again your astrological weight is computed base on your birth date. This basically defines on what kind of life one has or will have. Base on your astrological birth weight one can advice a possible Feng Shui charm that one will need for the rest of their life.

BAZI Chart. The Bazi is also called Paht Chee, 8 Characters, and 4 Pillars. Bazi, Paht Chee, and Eight Characters basically mean the same thing; it’s just said in different languages, namely and respectively in Mandarin, Hong Kong Chinese, and English. In fact, there are other terms for Bazi but they are all basically the same, and the ones mentioned here are the most common one. It is also called Four Pillars, because when writing down the Bazi you create four different pillars that help define who you are and your life luck, from this we then get the Life Luck Cycle Pillar. The Bazi is also computed through your birth date, and here we are able to look deeply as to what are your elements, your ruling element, your self-element, and what are the charms that you need. I once heard Chico Garcia of The Morning Rush of RX 93.1 saying that – I WAS SUPPOSE TO HAVE A VERY BAD YEAR LAST YEAR, BUT EVERYTHING TURN OUT WELL. That is because I would assume that he got a ‘generic forecast’, meaning, he would have just read it on the news paper, magazine, or a Feng Shui web site selling a Feng Shui charm, or a Feng Shui annual forecast book.

I’m also guilty of writing down an annual forecast that is because I always believe that not all people will have access to or will be able to afford a Bazi reading. However, I always stress that the general annual forecast is just that – a general reading, in some ways it can be considered as a generic reading. I also avoided suggesting Feng Shui cures that may have an effect on the person base on their basket of elements.

The past couple of years showed a significant lack of the water element, and because of this a lot of the Feng Shui experts who sells Annual Feng Shui Forecast books and Feng Shui charms or cures recommended a Water Charm. While the said Water Charm may be useful for some people, it should be noted that there are people who can’t carry a Feng Shui charm because they may have a heavy weighting of the water element and ‘carrying’ more water will definitely be bad for them. In the same manner that they dispense of recommendations of the year’s lucky color, colors of clothes that we wear has a significant effect on our life because colors are representation of the five elements that governed the principle of Feng Shui – WATER, WOOD, FIRE, EARTH, METAL. So for 2012 Year of the Water Dragon’s Bazi indicates that there is a significance lack of fire element, you’ll hear people say that this year’s lucky color are – RED, ORANGE, PINK, VIOLET, PURPLE, because these are the colors that represent the fire element. Again, while this in general is correct, people who have a very high fire element in their Basket of Elements base on their Bazi chart will find themselves getting into more fight, being exhausted, or ‘burning’ of their luck if they follow the so called lucky colors of the year.Image

Going back to Kris Aquino’s jade pendant, if she’s wearing it as a Feng Shui charm then it might have been suggested by her Feng Shui consultant, however, buying the same pendant, which I presume is going to be pricey if its made of high quality jade, more so if it’s a nephrite jade, then furthermore expensive if somebody decides to market it as Kris Aquino’s Jade Pendant, will still not ensure that it will have the same beneficial effect on you.

Always remember that Feng Shui is personal. If you happen to see a Feng Shui expert who markets a Kris Aquino Jade Pendant without even looking at your Bazi chart, your alarm signal should go off. Asking for your year of birth is not enough. It has to be your full birth date and time, and she or he must show you your Bazi chart for her or him to really be able to give an intelligent advice on your Feng Shui for your life or for the year.

REMEMBER FENG SHUI IS PERSONAL.

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