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Etiquette for Mistresses: A Feng Shui, Taoist, and Buddhist Perspective!

Published Oktubre 15, 2015 by jptan2012

Several of my friends have watched the movie of controversial celebrity and presidential daughter Kris Aquino. They said that the movie was nicely done; but that they all seem to have agreed that it might give the wrong notion that the life of a mistress despite of the difficulties is a glamorous life. On top of it, they all said that it might connote that once you leave the relationship mistresses will most likely have a good life such as the movie has portrayed.mistress

Now, as a Feng Shui blogger, I have received several emails, text messages, and calls about wives whose husband has a mistress, or mistresses that are having problems with their partners or with the family of the partner. Trust me when I say that I have heard both sides.

In our society, it is easy to take sympathy to the wife and condemned the mistress. But the truth as in everything, it is not always black and white. I’m not condoning mistresses but there are times that a mistress is as much as a victim as a wife and also sometimes beneath the uncomfortable set – up they are really the protagonist. However, I’ve also seen and talked to many wives (not to mention their children) who have suffered so much because of mistresses. What I’m saying is judgment should not be easily passed and if possible it should only be passed once we have truly understand all sides of the people involved.

However, let me say something, that in Taoism and Buddhism and Feng Shui, being a wife whose husband has a mistress, or being a mistress, and even being a husband who has a mistress has some reasons. It can be karmic; it can be because of a flaw on your Feng Shui or bazi. But that doesn’t these things make it right, but it doesn’t mean that it makes it wrong either.

One of the basic precepts of Buddhism is NO SEXUAL MISCONDUCT, while technically speaking in Buddhism there is no marriage in the strictest sense of the word, having sexual relationship with a person you don’t love or out of lust or physical attraction or money counts for sexual misconduct. Furthermore, although there is no wedding or marriage in the strictest sense of the word, sexual relationships out of marriage or extra – marital affairs are considered sexual misconduct.

Does this mean that a mistress is bad? To answer that I would like to say that both in Taoism and Buddhism a person is not judged by its actual and final action but by its deepest and most sincere intentions. There is a big difference between being a mistress because you want a comfortable life and love a married man, as being a mistress because you truly are in – love and truly believes that what is happening won’t hurt anyone. In Taoism and Buddhism, no one can judge but fate and we are all judged by our deepest intentions.

However, I would like to post some Etiquette for Mistresses in asking for help thru Feng Shui or amulets to better your situations:

  1. Admit that you are a mistress and trust that if you are talking to the right person you shall not be judge.
  2. Do not white wash the situation. Just state the situation, as it is base on your side.
  3. Do not speak for the guy. Do not say that he had you because the wife is evil, which leads to the next etiquette.
  4. Do not speak ill about the wife to help better your position because the bazi or the chart will show the truth anyway.
  5. Acknowledge your situation and accept it.
  6. Realize that sometimes it is really not your fault. That what you have may be really true.
  7. Most important of all, while you may ask for an amulet to better your situation, do not ask for the world’s most powerful amulet like the Vajrapani Ruel because you want your partner to leave his wife, or you want the wife dead.

Writing this because I have had so many encounters with mistresses who ask for amulets and wishes the wife of their partner ill. While it is not wrong to help better your situation be it due to the fact that your partner is really miserable with his wife and that it will help everybody if they simply separated, it is wrong to ask for an amulet simply because you want them to get separated so you can be the legitimate one.

Again, there is no judgment, I know that in some cases a mistress is really the one that is loved and deserves to be the number one. I have one or two readers who consulted me that in my honest opinion base on their charts they are really destined to be with their partners. But in the end, this should not be abuse, and that in the end no can judge and decide if this is the case except the people involve and fate.

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Vajrapani Ruel Stories (13): Migrating to Canada and Breaking Up with the Live – In Partner!

Published Hulyo 16, 2015 by jptan2012

I know that the title of this post seems to be a mixture of good and bad news but the truth is it’s really a set of good news.

According to IT, a mother of 3 children, she had to email me a total of 17 times before I was able to reply to her email, but that it seems all worth it. She is one of the few people who contacted me about the Vajrapani Ruel as soon as she read about it. She professed that she is a devout Catholic but that her problem with her son and his live – in partner has driven her to seek alternative solution, other than what her religion offers.

IT said her second son RT is a good son, and an intelligent one at that. In fact, he was suppose to leave for Canada but met a girl who seemed to have destroyed his dreams of migrating abroad.

RT met his live – in partner thru another friend. He fell in – love and they decided to live together. RT also dropped his dream of migrating to Canada to work. canada

According to IT, she initially liked RT’s girlfriend, but soon found out that she was not the sweet girl she appeared to be. She found out that she is manipulative and very vindictive. She is also a sort of a material girl. She also started bringing IT to bars every night, and this has started to affect RT’s work as well.

To top it off, IT’s daughters (RT’s sisters) once saw RT’s live – in partner flirting with another guy and they heard from common friends that she already had 2 kids from 2 different guys (something that they later were able to confirmed), on top of that, her last boyfriend left her because he caught her cheating on him with another guy. They told this to RT but RT being madly in love said that it was all in he past. IT thought RT had a point but it seems RT was also blind to her live – in partner’s emerging bad attitude, which are all very evident on IT and her daughters.

When IT first shared with me her problems I gently probed to make sure that she is not just a mother who is jealous because her son now has a woman in his life. But IT seemed to me very fair and not prone to unfair judgment and jealousy. And so she got the Vajrapani Ruel and gave it to her son, hoping that her son will come to his senses and that the girl will change.

Well, she didn’t get everything that she wished for. The girl didn’t change, but her son caught her in a middle of a vicious lie. That happened 3 weeks after she gave her son the Vajrapani Ruel. Her son, RT, was devastated for a few weeks but things turn out for the better, because her son has pursued his dream to migrate to Canada, and in fact has just left. IT said she believes that her son is now on his way to start a new and better life.

The Vajrapani Ruel looks simple, maybe even rustic, but this simple amulet is packed with a special talisman paper inside, with various ingredients, which includes Namtso Salt, soil, various herbs and plants, crystal, and a relic from a high lama. It's important to put the ruel inside a amulet holder or something sturdy as to not ruin it. If the cloth had tear which exposes or spill the ingredients inside, the ruel becomes useless.

The Vajrapani Ruel looks simple, maybe even rustic, but this simple amulet is packed with a special talisman paper inside, with various ingredients, which includes Namtso Salt, soil, various herbs and plants, crystal, and a relic from a high lama. It’s important to put the ruel inside a amulet holder or something sturdy as to not ruin it. If the cloth had tear which exposes or spill the ingredients inside, the ruel becomes useless.

You can also read the following posts about the Vajrapani Ruel:

For questions, comments and suggestions please email sanaakosirickylee@gmail.com

 

Living Near the Police Station Doesn’t Necessarily Mean You’re Safe!

Published Nobyembre 28, 2013 by jptan2012

I used to think that living near a police station would make your home a little safer as opposed to those who don’t. Isn’t it wonderful to have the protectors live near you so you can easily get their attention when you need their help.police

However, when I learned Feng Shui, I realized that police stations are actually bad for Feng Shui because of the amount of yin energy that they exude. You see, police stations normally have their own small prisons also where they temporarily put the criminals that they apprehend. Needless to say, and without judgment, the place becomes a hot pot for negative thoughts, feelings, and energies. Even the police themselves, although their job is noble can’t help it but be surrounded with a lot of negative thoughts and energies. These negative thoughts and feelings creates negative chi and regular readers of this blog knows that the chi of a house seeps out and affects the neighboring houses, in a way, they become intertwined. Because of this it is best not to live near a police station or prisons.

Children are Natural Chi ‘Sensors’!

Published Abril 20, 2012 by jptan2012

I received an email from a guy in Davao City who is asking me whether I can go to Davao to check out the new home that he intends to buy for his family. He said he knows basic Feng Shui dos and don’ts but he wants to be able to fully check the natural chi or energy of the place.

I have to turn down the invitation because my schedule simply won’t permit me to take that trip. He then asks whether there are other ways of checking the chi of a place even if you’re not sensitive to these kinds of energy.

First, sensitivity to natural chi is something that you can enhance. It is something that you should continuously do until you are more attuned to the natural chi of your surroundings. Doing it regularly will just make you a natural chi sensor. But even if you’re not ‘sensitive’ to it yet, there are other ways of checking the natural chi of a place. I’ll write about them in my later posts, but what I want to share with you right now is that children, especially those age 7 and below are naturally sensitive to chi. Some Taoist priest and Feng Shui experts would say that boys are more sensitive than girls. But I’m really not sure whether it’s true that boys are more sensitive than girls, personally, I think it is simply a case of the nature of boys – they are more active and girls even with good chi will tend to be more reserved.

Kids, 7 years and below are naturally sensitive to chi because they are not yet easily influenced by what they see. Unlike us adults, we tend to judge a place by how they look, but children usually tend to react to something base on how they ‘feel’. They’re not really aware of this but it’s really more of the fact that they really haven’t shut themselves to their surroundings by information load and judgment.

One easy way to check whether a house or any place has good chi is to bring children to that place. Observe the kids whether they are relaxed, happy and comfortable in that place. If this is so, it usually indicates that the place has good chi. If they’re uncomfortable, irritable, and specially if they’re unable to pinpoint the cause but are uneasy it usually indicates that the place has bad or negative chi.

In doing this, it’s important that you know the child really well because you’ll have to do the interpretation of his reaction to the place. Sometimes the slight misinterpretation makes a lot of difference. There are times that you’ll have to clearly define whether the child is quiet because he is uncomfortable or he is simply unconsciously reacting to a total calm atmosphere.

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