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Lessons from a Feng Shui Charm Hoarder (3): Don’t Be Selfish & In Buying Feng Shui Charms or In Making a Donation for An Amulet Make Sure You Use Your Own Money!

Published Marso 7, 2016 by jptan2012

Today, I would like to share with you the third and last lesson (for now) we can get from a Feng Shui hoarder. However before I go to that, I highly suggest that you read my first two posts about by clicking here (Part 1) and here (Part 2).

The third lesson is “in buying Feng Shui charms on in making donations for amulets make sure you use your own money” and you would think this is a no – brainer and quite basic. However, as far as it is difficult to believe there are people who still use somebody else’s money to Feng Shui charms or to make donations for an amulet. In fact, this may be more common that I thought because according to a friend who sells mass-produced Feng Shui charms in a mall, they have had several cases where they caught somebody stealing their products. Sometimes, they will find out about the theft whenever they had an inventory.

This is quite surprising until I encountered JM. As mentioned, JM is a Feng Shui charms and amulets hoarder. After initially getting the Vajrapani Ruel and other stuff she developed a propensity to buy all the Feng Shui charms or amulets that she can buy. Quite a few times I told her that she doesn’t need what she is buying but she continues to buy a lot of charms and amulet. She became a Feng Shui hoarder.

However, if you look at her life, she continues to be quite miserable and sad. While she has a family (a loving husband, three daughters and a newly born son) she longs for something else. Her chart shows that she should be a great businesswoman but she continues to be an ordinary employee earning only around Php 30,000.00 a month (roughly US$ 625.00). And yes, I was also surprised when I found out that she only earns Php 30,000.00 a month. How can she afford to buy herself thousands and thousands worth of crystals and gold Feng Shui charms, which she sources out?!

Then things became clear. She was embezzling money from her company. She was a trusted employee and so she manages a lot of cash. However, she uses this money to buy herself crystals and Feng Shui charms. Later on before the discovery that she embezzles money from her company, it was quite difficult for her to get amulets, powerful amulets like the Vajrapani Ruel that is why she has resorted to more dubious acts. But that is another topic, which will be discussed soon. However, for now, according to my Guru Lama because of her dubious acts all his Feng Shui charms and crystals are rendered useless no matter how much cleansing and empowerment she does with them.

selfishnessGoing back to JM. The wife of her boss was the one who found out that she was embezzling money, and she was put on investigation. Instead of being sorry and regret what she did, her dubiousness doubled, she made an anonymous call to the wife of her boss and told the wife is having an affair. Naturally, the wife will put her family first and her attention was diverted. The investigation on JM was put on hold. But wait, the boss of course got angry and doubted that it was JM was the one who made the anonymous call, and he was right. But again to divert his attention she told him that it was FSM who told the wife. It was not difficult for the boss to believe her because FSM and his wife know each other as well. This issue created a big problem with the boss’ family life so he was unable to concentrate with the embezzlement for quite sometime. JM took this opportunity to ensure that she won’t be fired or sued. While the boss and his wife are busy with their problems, JM used her charm (and as mentioned on the first part of this series she can be quite charming) to lure her officemates to look for other jobs, better jobs, making them believe that she will do the same.selfless-selfishPicture_65

To make the long story short, those who can replace her all left. She alone was the only senior person in her office that knows their division. And so she stayed.

Some people might say she was successful. But no because JM continues to be bitter and selfish. No selfish person is a happy person.

So why didn’t she had a REALLY better life and not something that is simply painted with few money and smiles. Why can’t she have the good life? Well… the chart shows that she can, but what do you expect if you use embezzled money to make donations for amulets or buy Feng Shui charms?selfishness22

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Lessons from a Feng Shui Charm Hoarder (2): Learn to See the Power of Kindness!

Published Marso 6, 2016 by jptan2012

In the first installment of the series called “Lessons From A Feng Shui Hoarder”, I talked about JM and how her friends tried to help her to do the right thing by encouraging her to get the Vajrapani Ruel amongst other amulets or Feng Shui charms so that she will straighten her life. As shared in that particular post, JM wanted to get powerful amulets to fulfill her heart’s desire. As encouraged by her friends, I will try to convince JM to get amulets that will help her straightened out her life. We made sure that we don’t lie to her, although we sometimes have to resort not directly contradicting her. As you can see, it all work out for the best, her boyfriend had the courage to end their relationship, and her husband still accepted her despite of the fact that JM claims that the baby she was carrying was that of her boyfriend. It was later proved that the boyfriend is sterile and that she was indeed still sleeping with her husband even she made it a point to tell all her friends that they have been living separately. She didn’t care whether she has 3 daughters, all she wanted was for her boyfriend to take her out of the country, and she is using her pregnancy to do just that. Unfortunately, that was the reason why she hoarded a lot of amulets, Feng Shui charms at that time. Primarily the Vajrapani Ruel.

As shown in that particular post, No amount of amulets, Feng Shui charms, or crystals can make your ‘evil’ or malicious wishes come true.

Today, allow me to share another part of the story of JM. As mentioned, JM’s friends were the one’s who contacted me because they want to help her. Since it was FSM who really knows me well, she was the one who contacted me and sort of worked with me to ensure that JM will have the right amulets so that she can straightened out her life. As shown in the first part of this post (LESSONS FROM A FENG SHUI HOARDER (1): ONE’S EVIL WISHES IS NOT MATCH TO THE POWER OF AMULETS!) by giving her the right amulets that she needs, no matter her heart wishes for something malicious, some would say evil, what really happened was really to her benefit. Now whether she will learn from it and use it for her own good is really up to her. But I believe that aside from the amulets that she got, she really owe it to her friends, especially to FSM that she didn’t had a broken family.

However, the sad truth is, aside from being thankful to her friends, when she was about to get into trouble in her company because diversion of funds for her personal use (this will be discuss more on the 3rd part of this series) she use FSM an escape goat. I won’t be able to go into details, but what JM failed to see here is that out of her selfishness and maybe bitterness because she didn’t get to go abroad with her boyfriend and make them believe that the baby she is carrying is that of his boyfriend, she suddenly turned against her friends, especially she was later told by FSM that some of the amulets are really for her to stop being physically and emotionally dependent on men other than her husband.

What she truly failed to see here is the kindness of her friends, and had she seen that kindness she would have also seen how much her friends could help her and even without amulets thru the help of her friends she can have better life.Kindness

So you see the second lesson is learn to see and accept the kindness of other people, sometimes it’s all you need and not a powerful amulet. Furthermore, JM continuous to be a lonely person because she destroyed her relationship with the true friends that she ever had. No amount of amulets can get you true friends if you are not a friend also.

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Lessons from a Feng Shui Charm Hoarder (1): One’s Evil Wishes Has No Match To The Power of Amulets!

Published Marso 5, 2016 by jptan2012

This is a difficult article to write and post, because of the sensitivities of the topic. However, this is an article that I need to write because of the lesson that we can learn from it.

A little more than a year ago, some readers in Mindanao called me to ask for help for one of their friend. These ladies are all friends and aside from being all mothers they are all also believer of Feng Shui. They have fond nicknames for each other, the one who really called me is called as Feng Shui Mom, one of their friend is call Prada Mom because of her love of the said luxury brand. They are calling me because of their concern with one of their newest friend who they called Jaded Mom. For the purpose of this article we will call this person JM, because of her nickname Jaded Mom.

According to Feng Shui Mom (FSM), they need help to help their friend JM because she is going through a crisis. She said she and her friends are quite concerned about JM because what started as a joke that she is jaded seems to be her truest sense of character.

FSM refuse to tell me the real problem until I have talked to JM and look at her Bazi or Paht Chee chart. When JM called me, she shared with me a little of her problems but I know that she was withholding a lot of things from, and I told her that I will just look at her chart first before we should talk again. When I looked at her chart I can see several concerns some of which will be discussed in the second part of this post, but one thing that stands out that she may have some emotional and physical dependency on men. Meaning, she can’t live without men in her life. The sad thing is even though she is married she might be seeking both physical and emotional dependency from other men.

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Some people hoard Feng Shui charms like they are going to be a Feng Shui charm seller. According to my Feng Shui teacher one must be able to differentiate a Feng Shui charm collector over a Feng Shui charm hoarder. A collector is somebody who believes in the value of the Feng Shui charm or an amulet and knows that there are pieces that may be difficult to find again thus they collect once it’s available. However, most (not all) hoarder like JM, do this because it is their psychological protection that when they hoard a holy or a lucky item they think what they wish for is good, although they really know that in their heart what they are wishing for evil, malicious and very selfish.

In Buddhism, we are taught that no one can judge a person, because at the end even if the act seems wrong no one can really state the true intent of the said act. Meaning no one can judge a person but only karma will make the judgment by looking at our deepest intent. And so while her chart shows some negative aspect of her character one cannot really say that she is a bad person. However, one other concern shows that she may be pregnant but of course the chart won’t be able to tell who the father is. To add to the complications, her chart also indicates tendencies to be unable to face reality and yes she can be very jaded.

I called FSM and without revealing incriminating details other than those who she already knows she confirmed that JM indeed has a hard time facing reality. In fact, this is the reason why she and her friends decided to hook me up with JM so that she can get help from a person outside her limited circle of friends. They thought maybe she would listen to somebody outside their group.

I knew that I have to be quite careful in telling JM what I saw in her chart, but I also know that I still have to be honest with her. So I decided to tell her the truth but at the same time I did my best to be as tactful as possible. For example, in discovering about her extra – marital affairs, I used the words “emotional dependency with other men”, also regarding the possibility of her having physical contact with these men I used the term “physical closeness due to emotional dependency”. JM admitted that she yes she had had several extra – marital affairs, and that she has a guy at the moment that she is constantly seeing. She also believes that this guy is in love with her, although the chart shows otherwise. She also after several conversations admitted that she is pregnant and claims the father of the baby she is carrying to be her boyfriend and not her husband.

JM wanted some amulets because she said she wants to leave her husband who she claims to be an abusive guy. The chart doesn’t indicate whether this is true or not. I was torn whether to give her the amulets that she wants, but I told her that I would give her the amulets that she needs base on her chart. She wanted to hear that those amulets are to grant her wishes that she and her boyfriend will go out of the country and live together. If you notice, it was a little unsettling that she is willing to leave her three daughters! To avoid arguing with her, and as agreed with her friends, I will take the stance of telling her the truth without directly contradicting her. In short, I would always tell her that the amulets or Feng Shui charms will know what is best for us and that it will hasten to give us what we deserve and not what we want. Although, I will never contradict her whenever she would say that she wants her boyfriend to take her out of the country, I will always remind her that she should not dictate the outcome but rather expect that the outcome will be for the good of everybody.

Vajrapani Ruel

Some people hoard Feng Shui charms like they are going to be a Feng Shui charm seller. According to my Feng Shui teacher one must be able to differentiate a Feng Shui charm collector over a Feng Shui charm hoarder. A collector is somebody who believes in the value of the Feng Shui charm or an amulet and knows that there are pieces that may be difficult to find again thus they collect once it’s available. However, most (not all) hoarder like JM, do this because it is their psychological protection that when they hoard a holy or a lucky item they think what they wish for is good, although they really know that in their heart what they are wishing for evil, malicious and very selfish.

Among other amulets to protect her from legal problems that she refuses to reveal what the real cause is, but which the chart indicates potential legal problem because of embezzlement, she got the Vajrapani Ruel for herself. She also insisted to get the Vajrapani Ruel for her boyfriend so that he will develop a more determined character so that he will take her out of the country.

Although JM was quite new to Feng Shui I noticed she has this propensity to hoard on Feng Shui charms or amulets believing that the more she has the stronger possibility for her to lure her boyfriend into taking her out of the country.

I know what I did might be a little controversial, but according to my Guru Lama and her friends agrees also that it is better for her to get amulets and charms thinking that it will always do her hearts bidding no matter it is wrong, as long as I have been honest with her that it will do what is proper.

The Vajrapani Ruel has a very high personal testimony, and it indeed did the right thing for her also. Soon after she got the Vajrapani Ruel for herself and her boyfriend, things went right for her, albeit not what she was really wishing for.

Even though she got pregnant, and even though she claims that her boyfriend is the father of her baby (as it turn out later the boyfriend is not capable of conceiving a child), her husband forgave her and accepted the baby (the baby also came out looking very much like her husband, it shows that what she claims that she no longer have any physical contact with her husband, they actually still shares their matrimonial bed). Her boyfriend also who seems to be really quite fond of her develop a more determined character that he needs and decided to end the relationship with her.

You see, even though her real intent was not very nice, some will even say those are evil wishes, the truth is her heart’s negative desire has no match for the power of the amulet, in this case I referr to the Vajrapani Ruel, which is the amulet that she got, the same can be said for all amulets. The amulets are ‘extensions’ of the Buddha, Bodhisattvas, or Taoist Gods thus it ‘knows’ (for the lack of term) what you really need and it shall give it to you. It may or may not be your heart’s desire but it will give you what you really need. Let’s just hope and pray that JM learns to open her eyes and see the good luck that she received.

Note: You might be asking whether JM really exist. The answer is she does, but I have taken the liberty to take two similar persons and two similar stories and merged them into one.

Note: This is the first of a series of three.

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