The grudge is scary and no, I’m not talking about the famous horror movie, but I’m taking about the grudge as an emotion. Holding a grudge is one of the worst things you can do for yourself. It destroys you, it makes you unhappy, and worst of all it creates a lot of bad Feng Shui.
I personally know of a Feng Shui believer, let’s call her AM, whose life was destroyed because of the grudge she carries in her heart. The truth is, and I say this without judgment, she grew up with a very selfish heart. She has a grudge against her parents and younger sister because she felt that her sister’s life was better than hers because her mom got to spend more time with her sister when the sister was growing up, than with her when she was growing up. She should have realized that this is only because her parents are more financially stable when her sister was born.
Furthermore, she holds a grudge against to all her employees who leaves the company. When her employees decides to leaves her company, she always takes it personally, and keeps a grudge against the employees. She’ll delete them on her Facebook friends list, but more than that she’ll go out of her way to spread malicious bad rumor about the said employee. She has done this to most if not all of her employees. One time she even said that an employee got cancer because the said employee resigned from the office.
One of the worst things she’s ever done was when an employee resigned, she begged the said employee to stay, the said employee stayed for another year. After that the said employee submitted another resignation. AM again requested the said employee to stay because AM felt that nobody can easily take over the employee’s duties. The employee agreed under the condition that AM will start getting involved with the accounts that the employee is handling and that AM will start hiring a replacement. Six months after, there was no single replacement hired, and AM has yet to fulfill her promise to get more involved with the employees account. The employee felt that AM didn’t put any effort into fulfilling her promises, so the employee to just submit an irrevocable resignation. When AM got the resignation, she called the employee to request again not to leave the company. This is the employee’s third resignation and so he didn’t give in to AM’s request. AM unable to convince the employee to stay, then requested the employee that the clients be not informed, AM said told the employee that she wants to personally inform them. The employee agreed.
Two days after, the employee started getting phone messages from clients sharing their sympathy with the employee. Apparently, AM told the client that the employee has a family emergency and is not sure when to return. She also told the clients that the employee left without delegating his duties, a lie that she concocted. She even told the clients that the employee run off with some money. Later on she told the clients that she decided to fire the employee because he was not doing his job well.
One day, some of the clients decided to call up the employee and they had lunch. During lunch AM called up the employee to talk about a project that the employee has started. AM wants to discontinue the project saying it’s not possible and that everything has been a hoax. The client said that it has to be continued. AM called up the employee to inquire about the project and to ask for the contacts. The employee told AM the ways to continue the project but declined to give the contacts, but he informed AM that ‘I can finish this project for you, absolutely free, you don’t have to pay, it’s my commitment. I hope you do understand that I cannot give you the contacts because they are my contacts and therefore a professional relationship that I need to take care of.’ AM got angry and hang up. She then called the client who at that time was with the employee or the former employee. She told the client that the employee was just in her office to turn over some things, and that she had a talk with the employee and that the employee admitted that it’s impossible to push through with the project because he’s been lying. Obviously, this was a lie because she just called the employee while he was having lunch with the clients and the clients heard the things that he said to AM. To further bait AM, the client asked AM whether he can to the employee, AM said, ‘Oh, he just stepped out of the office, just now.’ Needless to say, AM was fired by the client.
AM is a very intelligent woman, she rose from rags to riches, and singlehandedly put up her company. She has gotten several awards for the things she does, and she is a staunch believer in Feng Shui. However, she loves keeping a grudge even if she was not wrong. If things don’t go her way she keeps a grudge.
Sad to say, no amount of Feng Shui or prayers or intelligence is able to counter the negative effects of the grudge she keeps in her heart. Despite being one of the most intelligent people, she has loss a lot of her clients, furthermore, her marriage deteriorated and she just recently separated from her husband. Most of her trusted employees have left her, and her projects are ‘epic’ failure, the latest of which was criticized by the public as a racist campaign, and because of this she lost another client.
Remember, it’s useless to use Feng Shui if you are unable to Feng Shui your inner self.