In Buddhism, it is said that there are three poisons of existence, and these are IGNORANCE, ATTACHMENT, and ANGER. Shakyamuni Buddha (also speeled as Sakyamuni) said that these three are the root of all sufferings; I must add though that I think anger is the most destructive of all three poisons of existence.
How many of us have experience for anger to cause us a big problem. This may be problem with our boss, with our employee, with a family member or with a partner. Chances are most if not all has experienced this, it may be in varying degree, but I bet most of us in this world has experienced this. Furthermore, anger might also cost us to lose our job, to have a broken family, or for some to have a destroyed future. Just about a week or two ago, there was news on TV that told of a father who beat his daughter and even put her into flame just because he was angry. When asked why did he do that to his daughter, he said he lost control and because he knows that his wife loves their daughter very much, and that when he became really angry he set out to destroy the thing that his wife loves most.
Anger is a very powerful emotion, and it is something that we need to control. It is always easier said than done.
I remember when I was still not really into Buddhism and Feng Shui; I had a fight with my sister because of a small matter. We end up not talking to each other for a year, although we have long forgotten what we fought about, but the anger was still there lingering in our hearts. So you see, I’m sharing this because it also showed that anger is such an irrational emotion that can linger for a long time.
The web is full of different suggestions on how we can deal with anger. Go to the bookstore and there are a lot of books talking about how can one control over their emotions. This post is not about that, I suggest you go to the bookstore and search the web for this helpful suggestions. But whatever you do one thing is pretty obvious, the decision to control anger should come from within us, and should be decided upon with a firm determination. That’s how I started dealing with it. Now, I find myself being able to control over my temper better.
In Buddhism and Feng Shui, there are a lot of things that can help us be calmer and help us control our temper better. Allow me to share some of them here.
PRAYER WHEEL. Just a few days ago, I talked about the Prayer Wheel and how it helped me handle a delicate situation. The post is entitled – THE POWER OF A PRAYER WHEEL: A PERSONAL TESTIMONY. However, a Prayer Wheel because it has a lot of Mantras inside it also has a calming effect with the people around it, or for those who wear one around their neck. Do make a habit of spinning your Prayer Wheel to help activate the mantras inside it
IMAGE OF KUAN YIN (also spelled as QUAN YIN). The image of Kuan Yin or the Bodhisattva of Compassion, either when displayed at home or worn as a pendant also has a very calming effect. Just simply having the image of the Kuan Yin / Quan Yin will bestow upon us some of the attributes of Kuan Yin. Kuan Yin is the female manifestation of Avalokitesvara.
CHANT A MANTRA. Chanting a mantra also helps a lot in helping us control our temper. Other than its effect of prolonging the reaction, much like when we count one to ten, it also imbibe us with the calming effect of the mantra itself.