People who know me personally know that I’m currently trying to lose weight. After losing about 40 pounds in a year’s time, I now find it hard to shed the rest of the weight that I need to lose, especially; my metabolism is sort of slow. The fight against the bulge is a constant battle, and one needs to come up with different ways of fight the bulge because our body get used to what we eat and do and sort of creates a certain ‘relax’ mode that makes the fight a little slower.
In my new quest to lose weight, I found out that there is such a thing as a negative calorie food; basically, these are foods that have a low calorie index and will take out more calories for us to digest them. Scientists are divided with regards to this belief, some say it’s impossible and say its true. However, if you look at the arguments of both sides, regardless whether ‘negative calorie’ theory is true or not, one thing is certain, these are foods that has low calorie index. Meaning, you may eat a lot and there’s a low chance that you’ll get fat from a ‘negative calorie’ food. Furthermore, most of these foods included in the list of ‘negative calorie foods’ are high in fiber and will tend to make us feel full longer. A lot of them are also high in nutrients.
Allow me to share the top fifteen ‘negative calorie’ foods.
Also add in the list are most green leafy vegetables, however, it should be noted that some say for them to be truly negative calorie they should be eaten raw. It’s not a problem with the fruits, but with some of the vegetables, eating them raw tends to make it bland, so be careful with the dressing if you’re making a salad out of it. Nevertheless, some say they’re negative calorie regardless whether they are raw or cooked, but you have to be careful with the other ingredients if you decided to cook them, because they will add calorie to the negative calorie food.
A lot of Filipinos believes that having a pet like a dog or cat is lucky because they tend to ‘block’ any negative things that may happen to you. I really don’t know whether this is true or not, but if you’re getting a pet simply to have ‘punching bag’ for all negative energies, I think you are consciously creating more karma for yourself.
Having said that, I do believe that having a dog or cat, especially if you really love them and treat them properly do create a lot of positive Feng Shui. One must always remember that a dog and a cat is a living thing, meaning they have life and that in a Buddhist perspective they have a consciousness, it can be equated to a soul in Christianity. More than that, for Buddhism, we must treat all living things with compassion and kindness, even rats, cockroach, ants, tigers, snakes, etc. If you are able to practice kindness to an animal, it really doesn’t go to waste because you create more positive karma for you and at the same time, it’s almost always impossible to be kind to animals and be bad to other people. Unless, of course, the kindness that you show an animal like our pets (dogs and cats) are more for a ‘public act’, since, especially here in the Philippines it now has become a fad to carry our pets around.
Aside from creating positive karma, like children, animals are sensitive to the chi of their surroundings, so we would always be ‘warned’ if the chi of a place were negative. They also provide a vibrant yang chi, like most children, dogs and cats, at any age may provide constant fresh yang energy in the place where they live in.
This post is for residents of the Philippines. My favorite writer who inspired me to put up this blog has a script writing workshop. I was once his student and while I was not successful in that aspect, this blog, although really different from what he writes, draws inspiration from him.
Do not let this opportunity pass, this is the best opportunity to be trained under Philippine’s best writer. I just hope he starts giving a workshop on writing a book.
I believe he is conducting this workshop under ABS-CBN. The workshop that i went through with Ricky Lee was held in his home. He was the one spend for it and the food was sponsored by pass Ricky Lee workshop students.
Please click read FridaysGoneGeek’s post about Ricky Lee’s workshop.
I’ve received some emails from some of you inquiring as to why I haven’t post anything the past few days, in fact, for 20 days. I’ve been quite busy with work and I have to personally attend to two readers who sent me an email about suicide. I’m writing this post with their permission but I won’t really discuss their situation.
It feels weird that I’d received two emails from two different people contemplating suicide. Having a received a number of hoax emails, my initial reaction was to ignore the email or simply write a standard response, however, the emails felt real and more than that it is as if fate has ‘commanded’ to read their emails that day. I received several emails a day, and I have a huge backlog in responding to the said emails, as some of you may have experienced. Nevertheless, for some weird reason my attention was caught by this two different emails sent on two different dates.
There is something about their emails that really bothered me and it seems like there was a force that push me to reply. To make the long story short, I soon found out that those were real email, and real situations. The first thing that I did was to recognize the gravity of the situation, and the second thing that I did was to recognize the fact that I’m not trained to handle these kinds of situations.
I called up a clinical counselor friend to inquire how to handle the situation, she recommended some ways on how should I respond and then I hooked the two readers with her.
For Christians, suicide is a grave sin, and we’re taught that committing suicide will surely make your soul burn in hell for all eternity. In Buddhism and Taoism, it’s much more complicated, there is no clear response whether it is a sin or not. It really depends on the situation and the intent of the deed. However, one thing is clear though, suicide is not a solution.
In a Buddhist perspective, we are here on earth to achieve Buddhahood. Each lifetime is a consequence of a previous one and hopefully, the last one is always a little better than the previous one, until, one reaches Buddhahood. Unless, in extreme cases like when one commits suicide to save somebody else, or a nation, etc., committing suicide is definitely a solution, and it pulls you back several karma back from attaining Buddhahood.
It is in this sense, that for Buddhism, it is quite clear that suicide is not a solution, committing suicide will definitely bring you back to the same solution in your next lifetime or maybe even put you to a situation that’s even worse than your current situation.
If one is depressed and/or is contemplating suicide, the first thing that one should recognize is that you need to talk to somebody. It can be a relative, friend, or try one of those counseling hotlines.
If you’re Buddhist, you can also constantly recite the Mantra of the Buddha of Compassion – OM MANI PADME HUM.
If you’re Taoist, you can simply take a bath in a tub of water with salt. If possible do include some flowers.
If you believe in Feng Shui, you can also do the first two, and you can put salt in your room and make sure your room or house is well lit.
But most important of all, seek help!
The grudge is scary and no, I’m not talking about the famous horror movie, but I’m taking about the grudge as an emotion. Holding a grudge is one of the worst things you can do for yourself. It destroys you, it makes you unhappy, and worst of all it creates a lot of bad Feng Shui.
I personally know of a Feng Shui believer, let’s call her AM, whose life was destroyed because of the grudge she carries in her heart. The truth is, and I say this without judgment, she grew up with a very selfish heart. She has a grudge against her parents and younger sister because she felt that her sister’s life was better than hers because her mom got to spend more time with her sister when the sister was growing up, than with her when she was growing up. She should have realized that this is only because her parents are more financially stable when her sister was born.
Furthermore, she holds a grudge against to all her employees who leaves the company. When her employees decides to leaves her company, she always takes it personally, and keeps a grudge against the employees. She’ll delete them on her Facebook friends list, but more than that she’ll go out of her way to spread malicious bad rumor about the said employee. She has done this to most if not all of her employees. One time she even said that an employee got cancer because the said employee resigned from the office.
One of the worst things she’s ever done was when an employee resigned, she begged the said employee to stay, the said employee stayed for another year. After that the said employee submitted another resignation. AM again requested the said employee to stay because AM felt that nobody can easily take over the employee’s duties. The employee agreed under the condition that AM will start getting involved with the accounts that the employee is handling and that AM will start hiring a replacement. Six months after, there was no single replacement hired, and AM has yet to fulfill her promise to get more involved with the employees account. The employee felt that AM didn’t put any effort into fulfilling her promises, so the employee to just submit an irrevocable resignation. When AM got the resignation, she called the employee to request again not to leave the company. This is the employee’s third resignation and so he didn’t give in to AM’s request. AM unable to convince the employee to stay, then requested the employee that the clients be not informed, AM said told the employee that she wants to personally inform them. The employee agreed.
Two days after, the employee started getting phone messages from clients sharing their sympathy with the employee. Apparently, AM told the client that the employee has a family emergency and is not sure when to return. She also told the clients that the employee left without delegating his duties, a lie that she concocted. She even told the clients that the employee run off with some money. Later on she told the clients that she decided to fire the employee because he was not doing his job well.
One day, some of the clients decided to call up the employee and they had lunch. During lunch AM called up the employee to talk about a project that the employee has started. AM wants to discontinue the project saying it’s not possible and that everything has been a hoax. The client said that it has to be continued. AM called up the employee to inquire about the project and to ask for the contacts. The employee told AM the ways to continue the project but declined to give the contacts, but he informed AM that ‘I can finish this project for you, absolutely free, you don’t have to pay, it’s my commitment. I hope you do understand that I cannot give you the contacts because they are my contacts and therefore a professional relationship that I need to take care of.’ AM got angry and hang up. She then called the client who at that time was with the employee or the former employee. She told the client that the employee was just in her office to turn over some things, and that she had a talk with the employee and that the employee admitted that it’s impossible to push through with the project because he’s been lying. Obviously, this was a lie because she just called the employee while he was having lunch with the clients and the clients heard the things that he said to AM. To further bait AM, the client asked AM whether he can to the employee, AM said, ‘Oh, he just stepped out of the office, just now.’ Needless to say, AM was fired by the client.
AM is a very intelligent woman, she rose from rags to riches, and singlehandedly put up her company. She has gotten several awards for the things she does, and she is a staunch believer in Feng Shui. However, she loves keeping a grudge even if she was not wrong. If things don’t go her way she keeps a grudge.
Sad to say, no amount of Feng Shui or prayers or intelligence is able to counter the negative effects of the grudge she keeps in her heart. Despite being one of the most intelligent people, she has loss a lot of her clients, furthermore, her marriage deteriorated and she just recently separated from her husband. Most of her trusted employees have left her, and her projects are ‘epic’ failure, the latest of which was criticized by the public as a racist campaign, and because of this she lost another client.
Remember, it’s useless to use Feng Shui if you are unable to Feng Shui your inner self.
I’m not here to write whether the expert and crowd favorite Manny Pacquiao really won over the relatively unknown to Filipino, Timothy Bradley Jr., neither will I jump in and join the cry of rigging, and/or who really had the most number of hits, but I can honestly say, that Bradley’s winning over Pacquiao, albeit controversial, is really a lesson in humility.
Before anything else, I’m not anti-Pacquiao, but neither am I fan. As a Taoist – Buddhist, I don’t believe and follow any violent sport like boxing, which intentionally and literally hurts a person for the other to win. I hope that me fellow Filipinos won’t think that I’m being anti-Filipino by posting this post, but I believe that there is something that we all have to learn from the fight and the eventual loss of Pacquiao.
Before anything else, I would like to admit that this is something that didn’t follow the whole Pacquiao – Bradley craze right when it started, but what I have seen so far is that Bradley has always maintained a humble stance and Pacquiao or his camp has always maintained a slightly confident, if not over-confident, stance. This may be because Bradley is the underdog, and Pacquiao is the ‘people’s champ’ and international favorite, but is this enough for one to be somewhat boastful and over confident.
In interviews, you’ll always see that Pacquiao and or his camp has downplayed Timothy Bradley’s capability, while Bradley always focuses on his own training rather than criticizing the other camp.
A few days before the fight, Bradley, to indicate how hard he was working for this fight, said that his training has been like hell. Pacquiao, on the other hand, said that his training has been like heaven. It was said in such a manner that would lead one to believe that it’s just a routine training for him and that he is quite enjoying and at ‘home’ with that kind of training.
On the day of the actual fight, those who have pay – per – view will be able to attest that Pacquiao made everybody wait until he was ready to come out for the fight. When I say everybody, I’m not just referring to his staff but also Bradley, Bradley’s camp, the judges, the people who in the arena, the people who paid pay-per-view to watch the fight. He made them wait for thirty minutes…the reason? He was still watching the Miami Heat and Boston Celtics Eastern Playoff!
When interviewed about waiting for Pacquiao, Bradley humbly said that it’s okay and that they’ll wait and just be ready once Pacquiao comes out. They even added that they don’t mind waiting for Pacquiao even if it takes him 2 hours before he comes out.
I will not attempt to judge both of their characters base on this one incident, but, at that very moment, one can see the difference in attitude. One is humble, the other proud. At the end of the game, the other remained humble, the other though humbled, continued to make ‘proud’ remarks.
We may be a winner, but that doesn’t give us the right to have a bad attitude.