I decided to write this post because of a reader who recently consulted me about her relationship with her mom. They know they love each other but they also fight a lot. K, the reader, was one of the first readers of this blog who contacted me through email requesting that her BAZI be read. It took me a few weeks before I was able to deliver her BAZI analysis. One of her primary reason of wanting her chart to be read is because she just recently went through a major change in her life and also she became a little worried because she read that this might be a bad year for people born under the sign of the Dragon. K is a Dragon.
K’s BAZI chart showed that she might have some relationship problems with her mom. It’s nothing that both of them want or seek, but it’s simply because it was destined to be that way, to further aggravate this her mom was born under the year of the Dog, which totally contradicts the Dragon.
K confirmed the BAZI analysis as shown on her BAZI chart. If we’ve seen K’s BAZI when she was younger, the remedy could have been asking her mom to let K call her another term for mother, other than what she’s usually addressed by the other children. For example, if her children call the mom Mama, K could just call her mommy or mom. If she’s called Mommy, K can just call her mom, mama, or even Inay. That’s one of the simplest cure for relationship problem that has something to with the BAZI or fate.
Also knowing about this earlier in their life could have prepared the mom to work harder with their relationship. This is one problem that really has to be addressed on as early as possible, it’s harder to ‘heal’ the wounds that has been repeatedly wounded several times through the years. However, it’s useless ‘crying over spilled milk’, Feng Shui is useless unless one is able to solve a ‘problem’.
Nevertheless, I have to admit that relationship problems specially one that is deeply rooted in the BAZI, which is destined as dictated by one’s birth date, is the ‘hardest’ to work on. But knowing that these arguments are caused by other than one’s personality is a first step in trying to tone down the bad chi brought about by fate. Secondly, one really has to be more patient with each other.
If you’re experiencing relationship problems with any of members of your family, regardless of whether it’s karmic or not, do the first two steps I just mentioned. Then, you can also do the following Feng Shui tips and/or Taoist and Buddhist rituals to help address the bad chi or energy that’s causing the disharmony.
SIX CRYSTAL BALLS IN THE LIVING ROOM. Placing six smooth crystal balls in the living room will help create harmony within the family. If possible, get a crystal ball that has some symbolic script on them, because this helps enhance the ‘power’ created by the good Feng Shui created by putting the crystal balls. If possible, use real crystal balls, but because this can get quite expensive, you can get two natural crystal balls and the rest can be made of glass. However, never ever get anything that’s made of plastic. Any color will do and they don’t have to be of the same size and color.
RECITE THE PRAJNAPARAMITA MANTRA. I’ll discuss more about the Prajnaparamita Mantra and its Sutra in one of my future posts but right now what’s important is to understand that this mantra is a powerful mantra that helps actualize harmony within the home or anywhere where this mantra is recited. If possible, recite this mantra in the living room or in the center of the house. If the affected parties are staying in the same bedroom, then reciting this in the bedroom is also good. For utmost effectiveness, recite one full mala (one full mala is 108 times) five times a day. You can recite all the five full mala at one time, but it’s best if it’s spread throughout the day. The PRAJNAPARAMITA MANTRA is – TADYATHA OM GATE GATE PARAGATE PARASAMGATE BODHI SOHA. (Note on Pronunciation: GATE is pronounced as GA – short A and TE as Tay – sounds like long A or the English word TAIL without the L).
SUN POWER TO CLEANSE NEGATIVE ENERGIES. Regularly cleanse your mattress, pillows, and blankets from negative energies. These are the things that we use in the evening, and we leave an energy imprint on them, they are also seldom exposed to direct natural Yang energy, thus it becomes Yin energy, this in turn may contribute to the negative energy that creates disharmony. Cleaning them with Sun Power is an effective way of infusing some Yang energy on them. You can do this every 2 weeks, bring out the mattress, clean blankets and pillows and expose them to direct sunlight. Preferably between 7 and 9 in the morning.
MOON AND PERFUMED WATER RITUAL. (1.) On an evening with a full moon, place a big bowl of water, make sure you use white colored bowl. While it should be full, make sure that it doesn’t spill. (2.) Leave the bowl of water under the moon from 7PM to 6AM the following day. (3.) Place 5 different flowers that has five different colors that represents the five elements. Red, pink, orange, purple flower for the fire element; white flower for the metal element; blue flower for the water element; green flower for the wood element; yellow flower for the earth element. The flowers will be put in the Moon energized water at 6AM the following day. (4.) Bring the water inside the house and if possible put it on your altar then say the PRAJNAPARAMITA MANTRA 108 times. If you don’t have an altar just bring it in the living room or at the center of the house. (5.) After saying the full mala of PRAJNAPARAMITA MANTRA, blow on the water. (6.) Then put a pinch of salt and a pinch of saffron the water. In the absence of water one can also use any other ordinary scented oil. Almond or Vanilla are also very good. Florida Water may be use also. (7.) Sprinkle the water in the living room, and in the bedrooms of the affected members of the family. (8.) Leave some of the water to be mixed in the bath water of the affected members of the family. About one tablespoon per person will do.